last year Age Concern uncovered 4 cases of elder abuse every day

Ageing Safely

What is elder abuse?

Sometimes, things don’t work as they should. Abuse can happen to older people, and the likelihood is that it’s going to be at home at the hands of family members or “friends”. Sadly, Age Concern say they uncover at least two new cases of abuse or neglect of older people every day in New Zealand, and it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

We’ve all received a phone call, email, or text message from someone posing as your bank, the Social Security Administration, or someone attempting to persuade you to give money or personal information. We all hope that we would be able to avoid becoming victims of such schemes. However, other groups, such as the elderly, are especially susceptible to these schemes.

They could be lonely, trusting, unaware of the several types of fraud that can occur, or suffering from cognitive impairment. In addition, older people are more likely to have money and assets than their younger people.

In an ideal world, everyone would prepare for the worst-case scenario in advance however, more than one out of every 10 persons will suffer from cognitive impairment. These people are at risk of being exploited, and they require reliable supervision.

Many senior citizens require assistance with daily activities due to physical or cognitive disability. And you become subject to exploitation when you accept someone inside your house, your life, and even your bank account. Family members are the most common perpetrators of elder financial abuse, accounting for more than half of all financial exploitation of elders.

Abuse and neglect of older people is internationally defined as: “a single or repeated act, or lack of appropriate action, occurring within any relationship where there is an expectation of trust, which causes harm or distress to an older person. It can be of various forms: physical, psychological/emotional, sexual, financial/material abuse, and/or intentional or unintentional neglect.”

What counts as abuse?


Behaviour causing mental anguish, stress or fear. For example:

  • Ridicule or threats. Harassment or humiliation.
  • Preventing choice or decision-making.
  • Withholding affection.


Illegal or improper use of money, property or other resources. For example:

  • Unauthorised taking of money or possessions.
  • Misuse of power of attorney.
  • Failing to repay loans.
  • Use of home and/or utilities without contributing to costs.


Infliction of pain, injury or use of force. For example:

  • Hitting, pushing, rough handling.
  • Over-medication.
  • Inappropriate use of restraints or confinement.


Non-consensual sexual acts or exploitive behaviours. For example:

  • Inappropriate touching.
  • Sexual acts with someone unable to give consent.


  • Not providing for physical, emotional or social needs. For example:
  • Inadequate food, clothing or shelter.
  • Lack of social contact and support.
  • Health needs not attended to.

10 signs of elder abuse

Signs that abuse or neglect is occurring may include:

  • Fear of a particular person or people.
  • Anxiety for no obvious reason.
  • Irritability and being overly emotional.
  • Presenting as helpless, hopeless and sad.
  • Using contradictory statements not resulting from mental confusion.
  • Reluctance to talk openly. For example, waiting for the carer to answer.
  • Avoidance of the usual amount of physical, eye or verbal contact this person uses.
  • Not having enough money for necessities or to pay bills.
  • Unexplained withdrawals from bank accounts.
  • Possessions disappearing.

Who is most at risk?

  • It can be difficult to identify abuse. But being aware of the risk factors can help. These include:
  • Being dependant on others.
  • Family conflict or dysfunction. Family violence.
  • Isolation.
  • Stress in care relationships.
  • Mature age children or dependents with a disability or health issues.
  • Mental illness and dementia.
  • Poor literacy and/or awareness of rights.

Misuse of enduring powers of attorney.

Would you be able to recognise when enduring powers of attorney are being abused?

Unfortunately, this type of abuse is frequently perpetrated by close family and friends who have been appointed as the older person's enduring power of attorney, trusting that they will act honourably. It pays to be aware of the various forms that this type of abuse can take.

  • Embezzlement occurs when the person with legal authority and access to the accounts (the attorney) takes advantage of the possibility of receiving an inheritance as an excuse to steal money or assets. 'Oh, Dad wouldn't mind if he was all there,' people often say when they pretend to be 'borrowing.'
  • A show of entitlement to someone's possessions - unless someone has clearly expressed that they are happy to share their possessions, this could be considered stealing.
  • Denying someone access to care services such as a rest home in order to increase the size of the estate left behind for the attorney to profit from. 
  • In the case of an attorney or an EPA placing someone in care early to suit their own purpose.
  • Selling a residence without the original owner's knowledge or permission(s).

Adults not paying their own way

Because abuse comes in different shapes and sizes, it can be difficult to pick up on the subtleties that are woven within any type of abuse. When it comes to financial elder abuse, the perpetrators are frequently related to and have a bond with their victims.

Age Concern New Zealand's Elder Abuse National Educator, Hanny Naus, suggest being aware of the following:

  • Any adult who uses another person's home and assets without paying their fair share of the expenditures.
  • Trust your instincts - in addition to discovering evidence that someone is being exploited, you'll be depending on instinct to decide whether or not someone is in a poor circumstance.
  • Remember that older people attempt to help adults they care about, so they may not fight back or recognise that they are being victimised, putting themselves in a vulnerable position.

Scam relationships

Unfortunately, financial and psychological abuse aren't mutually exclusive, and they're both used by persons who wish to profit from vulnerable people. Scams can be disguised as friendship, companionship, or even a sexual relationship to fool the victim.

Things to watch out for are:

  • A previously unknown individual or persons suddenly becoming a part of the victim's day-to-day life.
  • A potential victim may become distanced from friends and family.
  • A strange suitor claims to have a genuine romantic connection.

Because romance scams are frequently carried out over the phone or the internet, any new relationship that is not established face to face is a warning signal.

Strange transactions

Unpaid bills, a shortage of spending money, and unusual-looking account transactions are all symptoms that something isn't quite right. You must notify a loved one's bank if you feel they are being misused.

What do I do?

Older people are valuable members of society. They deserve our respect, our care and our attention. Unfortunately, some people take advantage of the vulnerability and frailty that age often brings. If you’re an older person, you’re entitled to the same rights as anyone else. If you feel you’re not being treated right, or if you’re concerned about how an older person is being treated, you can get help. Elder abuse helplines:

If you suspect elder abuse is occurring

It’s not always easy to tell if elder abuse or neglect is occurring. Victims are often reluctant or even unable to talk about it. However, if you’re concerned about an older person, do something! As always if it's an emergency or a crime is happening now, call 111. Get in touch with a help agency such as:

Age Concern - 0800 326 6865 - free 24/7 helpline - call to find a service near you.

Super Seniors - 0800 32 668 65 (0800 EA NOT OK) - free 24/7 helpline

If you’re in close contact with the older person:

  • Make sure they’re safe.
  • Offer reassurance that you’re there to help.
  • Ask them if they’re happy for you to talk to an agency that can help.
  • You could ask them if they’re scared of anyone, whether they’ve been mistreated and how, and if they feel safe in their environment or their relationship with family members.

If their answers raise concerns:

  • Listen and make your responses calm and matter-of-fact.
  • Don’t make any judgements about either the older person or the abuser.
  • Believe them and show them they’re not alone – they have your support.
  • Tell them what you would like to do to help, but offer choices so they feel in control.
  • Let them decide when something should happen.